It's easy to feel ordinary in a world that often measures success by big achievements. But extraordinary women show us that being special doesn’t always mean doing something huge. Whether it’s a single mom balancing work and family or a businesswoman taking chances, each story reminds us that everyday strength, kindness, and being true to ourselves are what really matter.
This blog focuses on women, but the ideas I discuss can inspire everyone. We can discover the small but important qualities that can help us all feel extraordinary, even when we don’t see it in ourselves.
If you feel like you’re having a tired, stagnant, bored, overwhelmed, and uninspired life and are ready to exchange it for an extraordinary life…. apparently, there’s one simple way to do it.
Ask…..What would life be like if we truly saw ourselves as extraordinary?
Seeing ourselves as the extraordinary person we are means we:
See ourselves as smart, remarkable, beautiful and powerful
Think highly of ourselves–full of self-respect and self-love.
Know ourselves deeply–what we love, what turns us on, what lights us up.
We show up on purpose – how we dress, how we carry ourself, how we use our time, how we communicate.
When we look in the mirror and really love the image reflected back to us.
Imagine the well-being we’d create, the amount of joy we’d experience if we refused to buy into any story that was less than extraordinary.
Say yes to extraordinary.
I’ve read time and time again….
We are not the problem – our self image might be.
This is where it all begins…..
It’s time to reimagine what’s possible
It’s time to stop fixing ourselves and create ourselves instead. It’s time to put on that outfit and make the world our runway. It’s not enough to think about being an extraordinary woman.
Each one of us already are.
Mindset:
We get to decide who we are, what we think of ourselves, what we think about the world, and what we believe. Stop putting ourselves down and stop spending time with those who do it for us.
If we want to change our life, the advice is to start thinking like an extraordinary woman. Imagine how she would handle things and solve problems. When we adopt this mindset, we see opportunities instead of challenges. Our thoughts become stronger, leading us to a life of happiness and purpose. Changing how we think is the first step to living the life we want.
Are we deciding on purpose?
Many people find it hard to think like an extraordinary woman because changing the way we think is tough. Our thoughts are often influenced by past experiences, what society expects from us, and our own doubts. For example, if you've failed before or been told you can't do something, it's easy to believe you’re not capable. To change this, we need to work on thinking positively and believing in ourselves, which takes time and effort. It also means setting high goals and taking bold steps, which can be scary. Fear of failure and stepping out of our comfort zone often holds people back from thinking in a powerful, extraordinary way.
Style:
Style is self-expression, how we communicate who we are to the world and how we show up.
How we look and dress affects how we feel about ourselves. When we dress confidently, we start to feel confident. This self-assurance influences every part of our life. Our style shows the world who we are and what we aim to be. Let your appearance reflect your unique self.
Are we showing up by default or by design?
Having an extraordinary style can be hard because it’s closely linked to how we feel about ourselves. If someone has low self-esteem, they might not feel confident in dressing up or trying new looks. They might worry about what others think or feel they don't deserve to look their best. There’s also pressure to follow trends that might not feel right for them, leading to discomfort. Money can be another issue. Not everyone can afford clothes that make them feel their best, making it hard to feel confident and stylish. Showing up as the best version of ourselves involves overcoming these mental and practical challenges, which at times is not easy.
But here’s the thing -self-worth is not necessarily tied to what we wear. Self-worth and confidence do go hand in hand at times however, they are also very individual feelings. Dressing confident does not necessarily mean dressing up fancy all the time. I often dress casually for comfort and convenience most days. This does not take away from an extraordinary mindset. We don’t need to dress up to feel worthy or capable. No matter what we’re wearing, it's about feeling good in our own skin whether we’re in a fancy outfit or a simple pair of jeans.
What's really important to note and remember always - is -
The best make-up a girl can wear is her smile.
Surroundings:
Everything that surrounds us is a choice, and these small daily choices are affirming who we believe ourselves to be.
The people and things around us shape our life. To live an extraordinary life, create an inspiring environment. Be with people who encourage growth and celebrate achievements. Read books that expand minds, listen to music that makes us happy, and visit places that excite us. Make home a place that reflects our dreams. By surrounding ourselves with positive influences, we set the stage for an extraordinary life.
Here's an analogy that maybe we can all relate to at some point or another:
A bottle of water can be $1 at the market,
$3 at a restaurant, $4 at the movies and $6 in an airport.
It's the same exact water. The only thing that changed it's value, was the place.
So, the next time you feel you have no value, maybe you're in the wrong place.
Do you like what you’re choosing?
Creating extraordinary surroundings isn’t always easy because it often means changing both your environment and the people around you. It can be tough to distance yourself from negative friends or family because of emotional ties and the fear of being alone. Building new, supportive relationships takes effort and stepping into new social situations, which can be a bit scary.
Changing your space to match your dreams can also be challenging, especially if money is tight. Not everyone can afford their dream home or travel to inspiring places, and even small changes like getting new books or setting up a creative space take time and effort. But every little change you make, no matter how small, is a step towards creating a life that truly reflects who you are. Those small adjustments can gradually transform your surroundings and help you build the extraordinary life you’ve always imagined.
Self-image is a mental picture we create within our mind and then the world reflects it back to us.
It determines how we interact with others, the goals we create for ourselves, the clothes we choose, the places we go, the amount of money we earn, how we spend that money, how we treat our body, who we date, and marry…..
We find solutions, not problems.
We don’t fix ourselves, we create ourselves.
We turn ordinary days into extraordinary affairs.
We show up on purpose in our: Mindset, Style and Surroundings
Because to change our life, we must first change our self-image.
Not long ago, I felt stuck in my life. I was going through the motions, but I wasn’t happy or fulfilled. One day, I decided to make a change. I started by thinking more positively and believing in myself. I reminded myself that I could handle whatever came my way, just like an extraordinary woman would. I bought a few new pieces of clothing that I loved and slowly, I noticed my confidence growing. I also made changes to my surroundings. I spent more time with friends who encouraged me and let go of those who brought me down. I read inspiring books and listened to uplifting music. I even rearranged my home to make it feel more cozy and inviting. These small changes have made a difference in my life. I feel happier and more at peace when the focus is on myself once in a while. It’s a constant work in progress but each step brings me closer to the extraordinary life.
Is there advice on how to defy the ordinary?
Yes - of course........a recap. Focus on these 3 areas:
Extraordinary Mind
To develop an extraordinary mind, we need to start by believing in ourselves. Tell ourselves that we can achieve great things, just like an extraordinary woman would. When we face a problem, ask how she would handle it. Practice positive thinking and replace negative thoughts with encouraging ones. Surround ourselves with inspiring quotes, books, and people who lift us up. Take small steps each day towards our goals, and don’t be afraid to dream big. Changing our mindset takes time, but with patience and practice, we can train our mind to think in extraordinary ways.
Extraordinary Style
To show up with extraordinary style, start by choosing clothes that make us feel good about ourselves. Don’t worry about following trends; focus on what makes us feel confident and comfortable. We’ll start to see ourselves differently. Our confidence will grow, and we’ll feel more positive about our life. Try new looks and see what feels right. Our style is a reflection of how we feel inside.
Extraordinary Surroundings
Creating extraordinary surroundings starts with small changes. Look at the people in our lives and spend more time with those who encourage and celebrate us. Read books that inspire us and listen to music that makes us happy. Visit places that bring joy, even if it’s just a local park or a cozy café. Make home a space that reflects dreams and values. Add personal touches like photos, art, or plants. Declutter and organize to create a peaceful environment. These small steps can make a big difference in creating a life that feels extraordinary.
As we explore ideas on how to make our lives more extraordinary, there is also the concept of being extraordinary to others.
Being extraordinary to others isn't about grand gestures or heroic acts. It’s often the small, consistent efforts that make a big difference in someone's life. Imagine the barista who remembers your coffee order and greets you with a genuine smile each morning. It might seem like a minor detail, but it can turn a rough start into a brighter day. This simple act of kindness can make you feel seen and valued, something we all crave in our busy, often impersonal world.
Think about the friend who always checks in on you, especially when you’re going through tough times. They don't need to offer solutions or grand advice; their presence alone speaks volumes. A text message saying, "I'm here for you," or an impromptu coffee date can be incredibly comforting. It shows that they care and are willing to take time out of their day to support you. This kind of consistency in caring can build deep, lasting bonds.
Being extraordinary to others can also mean offering a helping hand when least expected. Picture a colleague struggling with a heavy workload. Offering to assist them, even with a small task, can ease their burden significantly. Your willingness to help can inspire them to do the same for others, creating a ripple effect of kindness and support.
These actions, though simple, can transform someone's day, outlook, and even their life. By making an effort to be extraordinary in these small, meaningful ways, we contribute to a more compassionate and connected world. It doesn’t take much to show someone they matter – just a bit of your time, empathy, and genuine care.
People may not remember what you say but they will ALWAYS remember how you made them feel.
We only have one life. Why not make it extraordinary?