
When we're younger, we often fall in love with the idea of perfection. We dream about the "perfect" relationship, the ideal partner, and everything being just right. But as we get older, our perspective shifts. What we end up falling in love with is the real, raw humanness of our partner—the way they’ve grown, the challenges they've faced, and how those experiences have shaped them. We start to appreciate the struggles that brought us together, and the bond that has only strengthened over time.
As the years go by, we don’t have the energy to keep up the perfect image. Our armor begins to slip, and what’s left is a more honest, vulnerable version of ourselves. It’s in that revealing, in that openness, that we find a deeper connection. We no longer just see flaws; we see stories of resilience, of love, and of a life well-lived together.
It’s like what Jeff Brown says: "Where before wounds turned us off and we saw imperfect scars, we now see evidence of a life fully lived." Those scars? They’re not signs of weakness anymore—they're proof of all the moments we’ve weathered together, and they make the love even more real.